‘Living one day at a time;
Accepting hardships as
the pathway to peace.
Taking as he did, this
World as it is and not as
I would have it.
Trusting that he will make
All things right if I surrender
To his will; that I may be
reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with
him forever in the next’
Accepting hardships is vital to get through the rebuild stage. People naively think ‘just STOP!’ when they see a person out of control and then your life will be fine. This just isn’t the case at all. Abstaining is only part of the problem. For me, I had no clue what was going on with my emotions and why I was self destructing. I thought that because I was enduring hardships in my life that I was on the wrong path. This can be a common misconception, with many having ‘If it is too hard, walk away’ mentality. No one has an easy stress free path through this world and so why do we feel so isolated when we are in the thick of it.
It was in the months and indeed years that followed my recovery that I have continued and will continue to face challenges as this is normal life. In the early days they helped me to see how far I had come in new understanding of who I was coming to know as Kate for the first time. What made her tick, what made her angry, sad, proud, scared, stressed, hurt and hopeful.
This weekly reflection fine tuned into daily practice and I knew if I recognised something wasn’t sitting well with me I had to give it the time it deserved to understand what I needed to know further about myself or others that would help it make sense in my life and that brought peace.
I find the next part to the prayer interesting but I believe he is speaking to contentment. To have peace and gratitude for what you have, even in and through the storms of life is a lesson I definitely learnt the hard way. While you focus on the things that are going wrong you rob yourself of the joys of the things you are doing right. The list I had to write for my councillor of 10 things I liked about myself helped me to readjust the mental scales in my head, so that any one of those 10 positive attributes were way more important and valuable than the one weakness on the other side of the scales.
Accepting the world and not being envious of another person’s anything, despite your circumstances is a powerful position and it helps you to relax and be at peace to figure out your unique passion and purpose and the way in which you can engage with it. Man’s obsession to control things is exhausting, just rest and take time to know yourself and then you become more in tuned to be able to help others.
This last part is all about having faith. Now I know what I believe and my faith makes complete and total sense to me in my life and I don’t feel it is my place nor is it others to tell another soul what they should believe. To me faith doesn’t have to mean religion. It is a deeply personal point of view that is for no other to attack or tear down. The value in his statement is that we as a society have moved so far away from beliefs of any kind and therefore ignored a vital part of being human, our soul and spirit and heart have been devalued and malnourished. The denial of this core need is in my view, proving to be a contributing element to the breakdown of society.
The one thing I know for sure is that we will all pass away and I would rather live my life positively affecting as many people as possible, happy with my humanness, grateful for the gifts I have been given of the amazing people I am blessed to walk with, at peace with my past and the learning that it held.